Everything I Needed to Know I Learned on Facebook

Facebook really is a fascinating thing.  Much like your daily horoscope, or a taro card reading it seems that some days all the posts, quotes and images you see are bang-on  with where you are.  That’s how it was for me this morning.

As I continue my journey out of the mire of a past that binds, today’s posts and quotes reminded me to believe in myself and my path; to stick to what I know, in my heart, is right for me.  They were the perfect crib notes I needed to keep me on a positively productive path to self realization and contentment.

The Unknowing Enemy Within

It is a day of remembering lessons, and courage.  As I continue to struggle with redefining my relationship with my verbally and emotionally abusive father, to create a space for myself that is safe, attempting to build a new relationship or, at the very least, an understanding between us that is mutually beneficial, I find I continue to be challenged, and am fascinated by where the threat comes from, and the turmoil it presents.

Dear Dad....

I am shaking.  The final ‘Dear Dad’ letter has been drafted and sent.  I feel the fear of a child that something terrible is going to happen.  The adult in me knows that he holds no power over me.  But, still I shake.  I cannot help the visceral, psychological programming of my youth.  I am afraid.

Patience Leads To Self Discovery

Letters, letters, letters.  How many versions of my ‘Dear Dad’ letter have I written?  I think I’m up to 10, maybe more.  It is really interesting the role all of these letters have played.  I have written them while crying, while shouting to be free. I have written them in outrage and anger. I have written them from my perspective as a child, an adult, a daughter, the abused.  I have hand-written, typed, blogged, shared, posted, and mailed them to myself.  And with each telling, each outpouring, I have gained clarity, confidence and calm.  I have learned to trust my judgement, love myself, forgive, and forget. 

Growing Pains : My Continuing Journey

Growing Pains

It has been 8 weeks since I declared ‘enough’ in my mind. I thought I would feel freer, somehow. I admit, a unique sort of stillness has inhabited my heart and spirit, a soothing balm to my weary self. ‘Enough’ I said. ‘I will not be treated this way 1 more time.

To The Victor Go The Spoils

Extricating yourself from an abusive relationship is an amazingly empowering undertaking, provided it doesn’t suck the life out of you in the process.  It takes a tremendous amount of bravery, and tenacity to capture every inch of freedom. 

The Dragon Slipped Past Me : My Journey Continues

Life continues to challenge us.  We find a hurdle in our path.  We try going around it, over it, under it.  Then, around it again.  One day, all of our efforts pay off and we say ‘phew! I made it.  I’m glad that’s behind me.’ 

Freedom Comes To An Open Heart

So much has been written about abuse it’s a wonder there is anything left to be said.  Yet, as each victim frees themselves from the bonds that have held them captive, their story needs to be told.